1 00:00:00,740 --> 00:00:02,150 mm hmm . 2 00:00:06,140 --> 00:00:10,180 Being 3 00:00:10,180 --> 00:00:12,124 an Air Force family member is both 4 00:00:12,124 --> 00:00:14,710 challenging and rewarding . Especially 5 00:00:14,710 --> 00:00:16,821 for an airman's spouse . Children and 6 00:00:16,821 --> 00:00:18,730 parents . Your support and 7 00:00:18,730 --> 00:00:20,619 encouragement are crucial to your 8 00:00:20,619 --> 00:00:23,960 airmen success and well being . Suicide 9 00:00:23,970 --> 00:00:25,970 is the leading cause of death among 10 00:00:25,970 --> 00:00:28,137 airmen . As a family member , you play 11 00:00:28,137 --> 00:00:30,248 a vital role in helping the Air Force 12 00:00:30,248 --> 00:00:32,900 protect and fortify your airmen but 13 00:00:32,900 --> 00:00:35,011 you're not alone in this effort . The 14 00:00:35,011 --> 00:00:37,067 Air Force offers robust training and 15 00:00:37,067 --> 00:00:39,122 resources to help guard against such 16 00:00:39,122 --> 00:00:41,390 tragedies . Nothing though can replace 17 00:00:41,390 --> 00:00:43,860 an airman's family relationships . You 18 00:00:43,860 --> 00:00:46,027 have unique insight into your herman's 19 00:00:46,027 --> 00:00:48,170 personal life . They often confide 20 00:00:48,170 --> 00:00:50,281 their thoughts and feelings to family 21 00:00:50,281 --> 00:00:51,892 members while showing little 22 00:00:51,892 --> 00:00:54,003 information about difficult events or 23 00:00:54,003 --> 00:00:56,059 circumstances with anyone else . You 24 00:00:56,059 --> 00:00:58,281 know , your airmen better than anyone . 25 00:00:58,281 --> 00:01:00,226 You know their everyday habits and 26 00:01:00,226 --> 00:01:02,448 quirks and how they typically behave in 27 00:01:02,448 --> 00:01:04,560 stressful situations . You know what 28 00:01:04,570 --> 00:01:07,200 normal looks like . Airmen and their 29 00:01:07,200 --> 00:01:09,311 families are the Air Force's greatest 30 00:01:09,311 --> 00:01:11,640 resource . Together we can drive out 31 00:01:11,640 --> 00:01:14,360 hopelessness and put an end to suicide 32 00:01:16,850 --> 00:01:18,406 down at all levels . Please 33 00:01:23,740 --> 00:01:25,796 everybody's waiting for the birthday 34 00:01:25,796 --> 00:01:29,700 boy . Yeah mm Doesn't seem fair does 35 00:01:29,700 --> 00:01:33,480 it ? You'll never have 36 00:01:33,480 --> 00:01:34,560 another birthday . 37 00:01:37,940 --> 00:01:39,140 Yeah . Yeah . 38 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:46,180 Yeah . Come on . 39 00:01:46,570 --> 00:01:48,514 Your parents came all the way from 40 00:01:48,514 --> 00:01:50,570 florida to make this This birthday a 41 00:01:50,570 --> 00:01:54,230 happy one . I'm not sure I have any 42 00:01:54,240 --> 00:01:56,250 happy birthdays left in me . 43 00:02:01,540 --> 00:02:05,150 Happiness feels impossible right now . 44 00:02:06,940 --> 00:02:10,070 But yeah you won't feel this way 45 00:02:10,070 --> 00:02:13,990 forever . How do 46 00:02:13,990 --> 00:02:14,990 you know ? 47 00:02:20,940 --> 00:02:21,660 Just do 48 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:27,050 mm . Mhm . 49 00:02:32,740 --> 00:02:36,590 Like everyone deals with stressful 50 00:02:36,590 --> 00:02:39,010 situations in their own way a certain 51 00:02:39,010 --> 00:02:41,200 amount of stress can be good providing 52 00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:43,367 a healthy motivation for accomplishing 53 00:02:43,367 --> 00:02:45,920 tasks . But too much stress can turn 54 00:02:45,920 --> 00:02:48,540 into distress . It's not uncommon to 55 00:02:48,540 --> 00:02:51,220 feel stress about work , school , legal 56 00:02:51,220 --> 00:02:53,400 or financial issues , health concerns 57 00:02:53,410 --> 00:02:56,180 or traumatic events . And everyone , 58 00:02:56,190 --> 00:02:58,357 not just airmen will likely experience 59 00:02:58,357 --> 00:03:00,579 distress at some point in their lives . 60 00:03:00,580 --> 00:03:02,970 Military life however creates 61 00:03:02,980 --> 00:03:05,090 additional challenges with frequent 62 00:03:05,090 --> 00:03:07,940 turnover deployments , new assignments 63 00:03:07,950 --> 00:03:09,090 and separation of 64 00:03:09,090 --> 00:03:12,950 retirement . 65 00:03:13,340 --> 00:03:16,550 Oh like a 66 00:03:16,550 --> 00:03:20,140 sweater . Mhm . Yeah . 67 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:25,190 Mm It's supposed 68 00:03:25,190 --> 00:03:27,710 to be an owl . Of course it is . It's a 69 00:03:27,710 --> 00:03:29,950 beautiful album . Thank you Alexis . 70 00:03:32,040 --> 00:03:34,680 See I told you he would like it . Shut 71 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:37,940 up girls Julia said I shouldn't give 72 00:03:37,940 --> 00:03:40,051 you that . She said it would make you 73 00:03:40,051 --> 00:03:42,960 sad because Sammy loved owls . Yeah . 74 00:03:43,540 --> 00:03:47,350 No sweet pea . I love it . I really do . 75 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:50,030 I love it even more because I know 76 00:03:50,030 --> 00:03:53,240 Sammy would have loved it too . Yeah . 77 00:03:54,240 --> 00:03:57,670 See well that's it for 78 00:03:57,670 --> 00:04:01,130 gifts . Who wants cake actually Rebecca 79 00:04:01,140 --> 00:04:03,680 before we do that . I have some news to 80 00:04:03,680 --> 00:04:06,440 share . Good news . I hope good or bad . 81 00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:08,970 I don't know yet but I've got orders 82 00:04:09,940 --> 00:04:13,140 two PCS this summer Schriever Air Force 83 00:04:13,140 --> 00:04:16,170 Base in colorado . What do you know 84 00:04:16,170 --> 00:04:18,337 what your assignment is going to be in 85 00:04:18,337 --> 00:04:20,448 this time ? You said we'd be here for 86 00:04:20,448 --> 00:04:22,448 two more years ? I know I'm just as 87 00:04:22,448 --> 00:04:24,503 surprised as all of you . Yes I know 88 00:04:24,503 --> 00:04:26,614 what my assignment is but I can't say 89 00:04:26,614 --> 00:04:29,200 much about it because I can't but I'll 90 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:31,970 be working with satellites . Mhm . Why 91 00:04:31,970 --> 00:04:34,470 didn't you tell me ? Working with 92 00:04:34,470 --> 00:04:37,150 satellite ? Sounds exciting like a spy 93 00:04:37,150 --> 00:04:40,540 movie . Is this an assignment that you 94 00:04:40,540 --> 00:04:44,290 wanted ? I did . But that was 95 00:04:44,290 --> 00:04:47,850 before . Mm . 96 00:04:49,340 --> 00:04:50,340 Way to go dad . 97 00:04:53,340 --> 00:04:54,340 Mhm . 98 00:05:01,940 --> 00:05:03,996 Unhealthy ways of coping with stress 99 00:05:03,996 --> 00:05:06,051 and changes in behavior can be early 100 00:05:06,051 --> 00:05:08,630 warning signs of risk for self harm . 101 00:05:08,640 --> 00:05:10,850 For example you may notice misuse of 102 00:05:10,850 --> 00:05:13,280 alcohol or drugs or a change in 103 00:05:13,280 --> 00:05:15,447 sleeping patterns such as sleeping too 104 00:05:15,447 --> 00:05:18,200 little or too much . Your loved one may 105 00:05:18,200 --> 00:05:20,311 talk about having no sense of purpose 106 00:05:20,311 --> 00:05:22,533 or describe feeling trapped with no way 107 00:05:22,533 --> 00:05:25,660 out . They may seem anxious or agitated 108 00:05:25,670 --> 00:05:27,837 and express feelings of hopelessness . 109 00:05:28,440 --> 00:05:30,870 Or they may show uncontrolled anger and 110 00:05:30,870 --> 00:05:32,920 dwell on perceived wrongs seeking 111 00:05:32,920 --> 00:05:35,140 revenge . You may even see these 112 00:05:35,140 --> 00:05:37,140 sentiments shared on social media . 113 00:05:37,340 --> 00:05:39,230 Other early warning signs include 114 00:05:39,230 --> 00:05:41,341 withdrawing from friends , family and 115 00:05:41,341 --> 00:05:43,508 activities that they typically enjoy . 116 00:05:43,508 --> 00:05:45,563 You may notice unusually reckless or 117 00:05:45,563 --> 00:05:47,786 impulsive behavior , as well as changes 118 00:05:47,786 --> 00:05:50,300 in appearance in hygiene . Finally , 119 00:05:50,310 --> 00:05:52,560 mood swings may indicate suicidal 120 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:54,700 thoughts while it could be an early 121 00:05:54,700 --> 00:05:56,840 warning sign , dramatic and sudden 122 00:05:56,840 --> 00:05:59,130 changes in disposition , including a 123 00:05:59,130 --> 00:06:01,380 sudden unexplained improvement in mood 124 00:06:01,430 --> 00:06:03,470 could also signal an emergency 125 00:06:03,470 --> 00:06:05,810 situation that your Aramin is 126 00:06:05,810 --> 00:06:08,030 considering harming themselves and you 127 00:06:08,030 --> 00:06:10,550 need to intervene right away . Other 128 00:06:10,550 --> 00:06:13,010 urgent warning signs include talking 129 00:06:13,010 --> 00:06:14,677 about are threatening to hurt 130 00:06:14,677 --> 00:06:17,100 themselves , seeking access to lethal 131 00:06:17,100 --> 00:06:19,600 means such as a firearm or stockpiling 132 00:06:19,600 --> 00:06:22,350 medications , writing about death or 133 00:06:22,350 --> 00:06:25,450 dying and unexpected communication . 134 00:06:25,460 --> 00:06:27,830 That sounds like a good bye . Family 135 00:06:27,830 --> 00:06:29,810 members are usually the first to 136 00:06:29,810 --> 00:06:32,110 recognize sources of distress and 137 00:06:32,110 --> 00:06:34,240 notice both early and urgent warning 138 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:36,700 signs of suicidal behavior . Because 139 00:06:36,700 --> 00:06:39,690 you as a family member often see more 140 00:06:39,690 --> 00:06:42,130 than friends and coworkers do your 141 00:06:42,130 --> 00:06:44,050 partnership and recognizing and 142 00:06:44,050 --> 00:06:46,830 addressing warning signs is essential 143 00:06:46,840 --> 00:06:48,260 to preventing suicide . 144 00:07:00,340 --> 00:07:03,290 Uh huh . Uh huh . Mhm . I don't know 145 00:07:03,290 --> 00:07:05,346 what she expects . She signed on for 146 00:07:05,346 --> 00:07:07,512 this kind of life and she married me . 147 00:07:07,512 --> 00:07:11,250 Yeah . How have things been between you 148 00:07:11,250 --> 00:07:14,830 and Rebecca since Sam died ? I don't 149 00:07:14,830 --> 00:07:18,750 know how should they be . Mhm . 150 00:07:20,140 --> 00:07:22,050 We're both hurting a lot 151 00:07:25,040 --> 00:07:26,970 in six months . But I still catch 152 00:07:26,970 --> 00:07:30,530 myself thinking Sam have baseball this 153 00:07:30,530 --> 00:07:34,060 weekend or checking the rear view 154 00:07:34,060 --> 00:07:36,850 mirror and big surprise . He's not in 155 00:07:36,850 --> 00:07:40,340 the back seat . Mhm . Rebecca puts on a 156 00:07:40,340 --> 00:07:43,490 brave face . But it's for the girls or 157 00:07:43,500 --> 00:07:46,160 for herself . I think 158 00:07:46,840 --> 00:07:50,460 it's a light . What makes you say that 159 00:07:51,440 --> 00:07:53,440 does that bother you ? Of course it 160 00:07:53,440 --> 00:07:55,662 bothers me why ? Because it's only been 161 00:07:55,662 --> 00:07:58,440 six months Cancer stole our little boy 162 00:07:58,440 --> 00:08:00,662 from us . And she acts like life should 163 00:08:00,662 --> 00:08:02,662 just go on as if nothing happened . 164 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:06,380 Yeah . Maybe she really is ready for 165 00:08:06,380 --> 00:08:08,940 life to go on . Well then she should be 166 00:08:08,940 --> 00:08:11,330 happy . We're moving . I don't know 167 00:08:11,330 --> 00:08:14,290 about that son . Being ready to move on . 168 00:08:14,290 --> 00:08:16,550 Doesn't necessarily mean being ready to 169 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:19,330 leave everything behind . You guys have 170 00:08:19,330 --> 00:08:22,990 a lot of memories here . Sam 171 00:08:22,990 --> 00:08:26,790 is buried here . Leaving won't be 172 00:08:26,790 --> 00:08:29,150 easy for either of you . 173 00:08:32,340 --> 00:08:35,980 Mhm . What ? How many is 174 00:08:35,980 --> 00:08:39,550 that ? Mhm . Right . 175 00:08:39,940 --> 00:08:42,490 You gonna lecture me on the evils of 176 00:08:42,490 --> 00:08:46,410 alcohol ? Yeah . Do I need 177 00:08:46,410 --> 00:08:50,160 to , Yeah . 178 00:08:54,040 --> 00:08:56,960 Even if you recognize the warning signs , 179 00:08:56,970 --> 00:08:59,192 it's not always easy to know what to do 180 00:08:59,192 --> 00:09:01,760 about it . Intervening can be difficult , 181 00:09:01,770 --> 00:09:04,040 uncomfortable or embarrassing . Even 182 00:09:04,040 --> 00:09:06,130 with a close family member , you may 183 00:09:06,130 --> 00:09:08,380 worry about damaging the relationship 184 00:09:08,390 --> 00:09:10,557 or hurting your loved one's feelings . 185 00:09:10,557 --> 00:09:12,612 Or perhaps you don't want to say the 186 00:09:12,612 --> 00:09:14,390 wrong thing and risk making the 187 00:09:14,390 --> 00:09:16,670 situation even worse . These are valid 188 00:09:16,670 --> 00:09:18,480 concerns and their what we call 189 00:09:18,490 --> 00:09:20,910 barriers to intervention . It's 190 00:09:20,910 --> 00:09:22,799 important to acknowledge your own 191 00:09:22,799 --> 00:09:24,966 barriers and to weigh them against the 192 00:09:24,966 --> 00:09:27,021 situation . If you're worried that a 193 00:09:27,021 --> 00:09:28,966 loved one is considering suicide , 194 00:09:28,966 --> 00:09:31,299 there are three options for intervening . 195 00:09:31,299 --> 00:09:34,490 Direct delegate and distract . 196 00:09:34,500 --> 00:09:37,090 Direct intervention means you 197 00:09:37,090 --> 00:09:38,979 acknowledge that you notice their 198 00:09:38,979 --> 00:09:40,868 behavior or mood changes and that 199 00:09:40,868 --> 00:09:42,757 you're worried about them hurting 200 00:09:42,757 --> 00:09:46,350 themselves . Use ace ask care 201 00:09:47,370 --> 00:09:50,210 as a guide . Ask them what's wrong and 202 00:09:50,210 --> 00:09:52,560 then be patient , empathetic and 203 00:09:52,560 --> 00:09:54,940 willing to listen to their answer . If 204 00:09:54,940 --> 00:09:57,051 they need a helping resource offer to 205 00:09:57,051 --> 00:09:59,450 go with them or make the call together . 206 00:09:59,940 --> 00:10:02,210 Delegating means . You ask someone else 207 00:10:02,210 --> 00:10:04,432 to intervene or to help you . You could 208 00:10:04,432 --> 00:10:06,610 ask another family member , a friend , 209 00:10:06,730 --> 00:10:08,841 one of your airmen's wingman or their 210 00:10:08,841 --> 00:10:11,470 supervisor . It may also be appropriate 211 00:10:11,470 --> 00:10:13,803 to get in touch with your installations , 212 00:10:13,803 --> 00:10:15,859 mental health provider or chaplain . 213 00:10:15,859 --> 00:10:18,026 Military . One source is another great 214 00:10:18,026 --> 00:10:20,290 resource that offer services to both 215 00:10:20,290 --> 00:10:23,090 airmen and family members . Distracting 216 00:10:23,090 --> 00:10:25,312 means providing a distraction from your 217 00:10:25,312 --> 00:10:27,312 airman's internal experience of the 218 00:10:27,312 --> 00:10:29,312 negative thoughts and feelings that 219 00:10:29,312 --> 00:10:31,368 contribute to suicide risk . You can 220 00:10:31,368 --> 00:10:33,534 distract them from feeling isolated or 221 00:10:33,534 --> 00:10:35,920 hopeless or worthless by encouraging 222 00:10:35,920 --> 00:10:37,587 them to participate in family 223 00:10:37,587 --> 00:10:39,770 activities , Expressing optimism for 224 00:10:39,770 --> 00:10:42,190 the future and reminding them how much 225 00:10:42,190 --> 00:10:44,246 they mean to you . It's important to 226 00:10:44,246 --> 00:10:46,320 realize , however , that distract is 227 00:10:46,320 --> 00:10:48,580 not the appropriate intervention in an 228 00:10:48,580 --> 00:10:51,060 emergency situation . If the risk for 229 00:10:51,060 --> 00:10:54,220 suicide is immediate , call 911 and 230 00:10:54,220 --> 00:10:56,553 stay with the person until help arrives . 231 00:11:07,440 --> 00:11:10,770 Dad , I feel 232 00:11:10,770 --> 00:11:14,220 lost . Like I'm 233 00:11:14,220 --> 00:11:16,490 staring into a black void and it's 234 00:11:16,490 --> 00:11:18,550 sucking me in . Mm hmm . 235 00:11:20,640 --> 00:11:23,780 Mhm . No matter which direction I turn 236 00:11:23,780 --> 00:11:27,610 there , it is the blackness . It's 237 00:11:27,610 --> 00:11:31,150 overwhelming me , smothering me . 238 00:11:32,440 --> 00:11:34,660 Mhm . That 239 00:11:35,340 --> 00:11:38,170 are you having suicidal thoughts ? 240 00:11:40,740 --> 00:11:41,160 Mm . 241 00:11:48,640 --> 00:11:51,100 When a loved one is in immediate danger 242 00:11:51,100 --> 00:11:53,210 of self harm , it's important to 243 00:11:53,210 --> 00:11:55,321 separate them from over the counter . 244 00:11:55,321 --> 00:11:57,710 And prescription medications , firearms , 245 00:11:57,720 --> 00:12:01,370 sharp objects , ropes and structural 246 00:12:01,370 --> 00:12:04,180 hazards such as high windows or bridges . 247 00:12:04,240 --> 00:12:06,080 That could be used as a means to 248 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:08,560 attempt suicide . Staying close to your 249 00:12:08,560 --> 00:12:10,960 loved one helps ensure their safety . 250 00:12:11,240 --> 00:12:13,400 Ask for help from others , such as a 251 00:12:13,400 --> 00:12:15,940 mental health provider or chaplain . If 252 00:12:15,940 --> 00:12:18,162 you feel the situation is urgent , call 253 00:12:18,162 --> 00:12:21,540 911 it's important to note that the 254 00:12:21,540 --> 00:12:23,790 risk for self harm increases . When a 255 00:12:23,790 --> 00:12:25,846 distressed person has easy access to 256 00:12:25,846 --> 00:12:28,080 lethal methods such as firearms or 257 00:12:28,080 --> 00:12:30,550 prescription medications . Three out of 258 00:12:30,550 --> 00:12:33,220 four airmen suicides involve the use of 259 00:12:33,220 --> 00:12:35,340 a firearm . And these suicides are 260 00:12:35,350 --> 00:12:37,960 often impulsive happening within five 261 00:12:37,960 --> 00:12:39,738 minutes or less of the airman's 262 00:12:39,738 --> 00:12:42,460 decision to make the attempt . Contrary 263 00:12:42,460 --> 00:12:44,930 to popular belief , most people who 264 00:12:44,940 --> 00:12:47,360 cannot immediately access their chosen 265 00:12:47,360 --> 00:12:49,600 lethal method will not try another 266 00:12:49,600 --> 00:12:52,170 method , properly stored firearms . 267 00:12:52,170 --> 00:12:54,281 Take more time to access and could be 268 00:12:54,281 --> 00:12:56,448 just the delay . You need to save your 269 00:12:56,448 --> 00:12:58,750 loved one's life . This is called time 270 00:12:58,750 --> 00:13:01,540 based prevention . An easy way to think 271 00:13:01,540 --> 00:13:05,300 about it is to go slow . S 272 00:13:05,310 --> 00:13:08,560 stands for safe , secure your firearms 273 00:13:08,560 --> 00:13:11,930 in a gun safe . L stands for locks , 274 00:13:11,940 --> 00:13:14,870 use trigger locks or cable locks during 275 00:13:14,870 --> 00:13:17,980 storage , and I o stands for outside 276 00:13:17,980 --> 00:13:20,580 the home , you can safely store your 277 00:13:20,580 --> 00:13:24,450 firearms in your installations armory . 278 00:13:37,640 --> 00:13:41,210 Mhm . She says she's not hungry , she's 279 00:13:41,210 --> 00:13:44,150 being a brat , she's being a teenager . 280 00:13:44,740 --> 00:13:47,300 I'm excited to move to colorado Bridget 281 00:13:47,300 --> 00:13:49,300 goes there every winter break to go 282 00:13:49,300 --> 00:13:51,078 skiing . She says it's the most 283 00:13:51,078 --> 00:13:53,410 beautiful place in the world . Welsh 284 00:13:53,410 --> 00:13:55,632 River is not that close to the skiing , 285 00:13:55,940 --> 00:13:58,910 but you'll still take me right ? I 286 00:13:58,920 --> 00:14:01,410 don't know how to ski . Mom can teach 287 00:14:01,410 --> 00:14:05,070 us you've been skiing , right . I 288 00:14:05,080 --> 00:14:07,302 think that would be fun for all of us . 289 00:14:07,840 --> 00:14:09,896 I was looking at things to do in the 290 00:14:09,896 --> 00:14:11,840 summertime too . Since that's when 291 00:14:11,840 --> 00:14:13,951 we're getting there . I found a bunch 292 00:14:13,951 --> 00:14:15,840 of stuff and there's this hot air 293 00:14:15,840 --> 00:14:18,680 balloon thing in september . You're not 294 00:14:18,690 --> 00:14:20,801 mad about leaving your friends here . 295 00:14:21,140 --> 00:14:23,410 Almost some of them I guess . But I'll 296 00:14:23,410 --> 00:14:25,570 make new friends . Bridget says that 297 00:14:25,570 --> 00:14:27,760 people in colorado are super nice . 298 00:14:29,240 --> 00:14:32,090 Our little optimist yeah . 299 00:14:35,140 --> 00:14:35,560 Need . 300 00:14:39,340 --> 00:14:41,860 The Air Force has several resources 301 00:14:41,860 --> 00:14:43,971 where men and their families can find 302 00:14:43,971 --> 00:14:46,082 help . You should always reach out to 303 00:14:46,082 --> 00:14:48,082 your sermons unit , including their 304 00:14:48,082 --> 00:14:50,082 women supervisor , first sergeant , 305 00:14:50,082 --> 00:14:52,640 commander and chaplain . Some resources 306 00:14:52,640 --> 00:14:55,110 are specific to your installation , but 307 00:14:55,110 --> 00:14:57,332 there are a number of helping resources 308 00:14:57,332 --> 00:14:59,221 available to airmen and dependent 309 00:14:59,221 --> 00:15:01,400 family members at all installations , 310 00:15:01,410 --> 00:15:03,930 including military . One source , the 311 00:15:03,940 --> 00:15:06,150 Airmen and Family Readiness Center and 312 00:15:06,150 --> 00:15:09,510 the family advocacy program . Primary 313 00:15:09,510 --> 00:15:11,621 care providers installation , medical 314 00:15:11,621 --> 00:15:13,288 treatment facilities and your 315 00:15:13,288 --> 00:15:15,288 installation health center or other 316 00:15:15,288 --> 00:15:17,430 great places to turn for help in many 317 00:15:17,430 --> 00:15:19,660 locations , care from the mental health 318 00:15:19,660 --> 00:15:22,260 clinic is available for both airmen and 319 00:15:22,260 --> 00:15:24,316 dependent family members , but there 320 00:15:24,316 --> 00:15:25,871 may be restrictions at some 321 00:15:25,871 --> 00:15:28,320 installations . Mental health personnel 322 00:15:28,330 --> 00:15:30,110 on most bases are available for 323 00:15:30,110 --> 00:15:32,960 consultation 24 7 and can be reached 324 00:15:32,960 --> 00:15:35,127 through the law enforcement desk , the 325 00:15:35,127 --> 00:15:37,460 command post or the clinics after hours , 326 00:15:37,460 --> 00:15:39,930 phone number , the alcohol and drug 327 00:15:39,930 --> 00:15:42,590 abuse , prevention and treatment or 328 00:15:42,600 --> 00:15:45,360 adapt program is available for active 329 00:15:45,360 --> 00:15:47,360 duty airmen who are struggling with 330 00:15:47,360 --> 00:15:49,471 substance abuse . If the situation is 331 00:15:49,471 --> 00:15:51,250 urgent , take the person to the 332 00:15:51,250 --> 00:15:53,250 emergency room or the mental health 333 00:15:53,250 --> 00:15:55,800 clinic If they're unwilling to go call 334 00:15:55,800 --> 00:15:58,370 911 and remain with the person until 335 00:15:58,370 --> 00:16:01,390 help arrives . Finally , the National 336 00:16:01,390 --> 00:16:03,334 Suicide Prevention hotline . He is 337 00:16:03,334 --> 00:16:06,780 available 24 7 at 1 802 338 00:16:06,780 --> 00:16:09,390 73 talk . That's 339 00:16:09,390 --> 00:16:13,010 1 (800) 340 00:16:13,120 --> 00:16:16,610 273 8255 . again 1800 273 341 00:16:16,620 --> 00:16:20,150 Talk . Mm . 342 00:16:29,440 --> 00:16:30,440 Mhm . 343 00:16:34,840 --> 00:16:37,460 Sorry , I got so mad about the pcs and 344 00:16:37,470 --> 00:16:39,637 basically ruined your party . No , I'm 345 00:16:39,637 --> 00:16:41,526 sorry . I didn't tell you first . 346 00:16:44,140 --> 00:16:47,860 Mm hmm . Matt , do you think ? 347 00:16:50,140 --> 00:16:52,370 Mhm . I've been going to that support 348 00:16:52,380 --> 00:16:54,860 group , you know , And I wondered if 349 00:16:58,140 --> 00:17:00,307 I really like it if you'd go with me . 350 00:17:01,140 --> 00:17:05,130 I think it would really help . I 351 00:17:05,140 --> 00:17:08,450 don't know . Not really my thing . Mhm . 352 00:17:09,410 --> 00:17:12,180 Well in something else , something on 353 00:17:12,180 --> 00:17:15,560 base Military , one source or 354 00:17:16,240 --> 00:17:17,962 Airman and family readiness or 355 00:17:17,962 --> 00:17:21,440 something or your chaplain or the 356 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:23,440 mental health clinic . What are you 357 00:17:23,440 --> 00:17:27,340 saying ? I'm saying that our 358 00:17:27,340 --> 00:17:29,340 family has been through the wringer 359 00:17:29,340 --> 00:17:32,800 this last year and there are resources 360 00:17:32,800 --> 00:17:34,856 we should be using to get through it 361 00:17:36,440 --> 00:17:39,300 for social creatures and we need other 362 00:17:39,300 --> 00:17:41,340 human beings , especially when bad 363 00:17:41,340 --> 00:17:42,340 things happen . 364 00:17:45,340 --> 00:17:48,160 No one should suffer alone . Mm 365 00:17:49,140 --> 00:17:51,307 And I'm worried that's what's going on 366 00:17:51,307 --> 00:17:53,940 here with us . 367 00:17:55,440 --> 00:17:58,060 But we're not alone . We have each 368 00:17:58,060 --> 00:18:01,230 other and the girls and their parents 369 00:18:01,230 --> 00:18:04,780 and siblings , right ? 370 00:18:04,790 --> 00:18:08,520 But it's like going into 371 00:18:08,520 --> 00:18:11,300 battle . Sometimes you need 372 00:18:11,300 --> 00:18:14,810 reinforcements . Someone fresh to the 373 00:18:14,820 --> 00:18:18,440 fight . Mm hmm . Someone who 374 00:18:18,440 --> 00:18:20,496 hasn't been there from the beginning 375 00:18:20,496 --> 00:18:22,960 because those people are 376 00:18:24,640 --> 00:18:26,950 just as tired as you are . 377 00:18:29,440 --> 00:18:30,670 Mm hmm . 378 00:18:34,340 --> 00:18:35,340 Yeah . 379 00:18:39,340 --> 00:18:40,170 Okay . 380 00:18:47,840 --> 00:18:49,400 No matter which options for 381 00:18:49,400 --> 00:18:51,580 interventions you choose or which 382 00:18:51,580 --> 00:18:53,870 resources you use . It's vitally 383 00:18:53,870 --> 00:18:55,981 important that you continue to follow 384 00:18:55,981 --> 00:18:58,260 up with your loved one . Most reasons 385 00:18:58,260 --> 00:19:00,500 for severe distress are not quickly or 386 00:19:00,500 --> 00:19:03,100 easily resolved . In one conversation 387 00:19:03,110 --> 00:19:04,999 or one visit to the mental health 388 00:19:04,999 --> 00:19:06,999 clinic isn't the end of the story . 389 00:19:07,040 --> 00:19:09,340 Your airmen will continue to need extra 390 00:19:09,340 --> 00:19:11,507 support and encouragement as they find 391 00:19:11,507 --> 00:19:13,451 their way to a healthier place . . 392 00:19:23,680 --> 00:19:27,500 Oh yes . Got it can 393 00:19:27,510 --> 00:19:30,880 break . No way . You're so lucky . 394 00:19:31,440 --> 00:19:34,760 Hold on his grandpa . 395 00:19:35,340 --> 00:19:37,940 Yeah . How does he win every time ? I 396 00:19:37,950 --> 00:19:40,117 don't know what to play another game . 397 00:19:40,117 --> 00:19:43,040 You know ? I'm doing better . Yeah . 398 00:19:43,540 --> 00:19:47,270 The a lot better actually . Good . Yeah . 399 00:19:47,740 --> 00:19:50,740 How's Rebecca ? She's doing ok ? Yeah , 400 00:19:50,750 --> 00:19:53,270 she's doing better too . Or seeing a 401 00:19:53,270 --> 00:19:55,381 counselor at the mental health clinic 402 00:19:55,381 --> 00:19:57,680 together . I wasn't so sure about it 403 00:19:57,680 --> 00:19:59,791 when Rebecca first mentioned it to be 404 00:19:59,791 --> 00:20:01,960 honest . But it's been very useful . 405 00:20:02,540 --> 00:20:04,680 Our counselors helped us work through 406 00:20:04,680 --> 00:20:06,990 our grief in healthy ways and move 407 00:20:06,990 --> 00:20:09,730 forward as a family . Especially with 408 00:20:09,730 --> 00:20:12,740 the pcs that's really great . And are 409 00:20:12,740 --> 00:20:15,440 things better with Julia ? Oh yeah , 410 00:20:15,450 --> 00:20:18,070 she's still mad but she's coming around , 411 00:20:18,080 --> 00:20:20,302 Alexis keeps telling her how great it's 412 00:20:20,302 --> 00:20:22,524 gonna be and how much fun they're going 413 00:20:22,524 --> 00:20:25,680 to have Julius stubborn though Alexis a 414 00:20:25,680 --> 00:20:29,150 winner over I'm sure . Yeah . Listen 415 00:20:29,150 --> 00:20:31,206 dad , we're right in the middle of a 416 00:20:31,206 --> 00:20:33,372 card game . Can I call you back ? Your 417 00:20:33,372 --> 00:20:33,090 mother's yelling at me ? The dinner's 418 00:20:33,090 --> 00:20:36,360 ready actually , so No . Okay , 419 00:20:37,140 --> 00:20:39,140 listen , thanks for checking in . I 420 00:20:39,440 --> 00:20:42,640 appreciate it . Of course . I love you , 421 00:20:42,640 --> 00:20:44,850 matt , love you too . Dad , 422 00:20:52,240 --> 00:20:54,462 maybe you're watching this and thinking 423 00:20:54,462 --> 00:20:56,462 this is all wonderful but my airman 424 00:20:56,462 --> 00:20:58,573 isn't in distress . So what does this 425 00:20:58,573 --> 00:21:00,851 video have to do with me and my family ? 426 00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:03,320 A key part of suicide prevention is 427 00:21:03,320 --> 00:21:05,480 being proactive to help your airmen 428 00:21:05,480 --> 00:21:07,460 develop and strengthen protective 429 00:21:07,460 --> 00:21:09,930 factors against distress . You are 430 00:21:09,930 --> 00:21:12,510 crucial to this effort . Protective 431 00:21:12,510 --> 00:21:14,730 factors are traits or qualities than 432 00:21:14,730 --> 00:21:16,619 the individuals more resistant to 433 00:21:16,619 --> 00:21:18,750 stress and less likely to feel 434 00:21:18,760 --> 00:21:21,280 distressed . Some protective factors 435 00:21:21,280 --> 00:21:23,770 include optimism about the future . 436 00:21:24,140 --> 00:21:26,400 Strong social support from family , 437 00:21:26,410 --> 00:21:29,520 friends and coworkers , willingness to 438 00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:31,960 seek help , willingness to talk about 439 00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:35,640 problems , effective coping and problem 440 00:21:35,640 --> 00:21:38,460 solving skills and a culture that 441 00:21:38,460 --> 00:21:41,490 encourages people to seek help . Two of 442 00:21:41,490 --> 00:21:43,601 the most important protective factors 443 00:21:43,601 --> 00:21:45,934 are connectedness in a sense of purpose . 444 00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:48,610 Airmen who feel they belong and their 445 00:21:48,610 --> 00:21:51,220 life has meaning are much less likely 446 00:21:51,220 --> 00:21:53,053 to consider suicide when they're 447 00:21:53,053 --> 00:21:55,480 distressed , healthy relationships are 448 00:21:55,480 --> 00:21:58,000 especially important and the Air Force 449 00:21:58,000 --> 00:21:59,833 offers several resources to help 450 00:21:59,833 --> 00:22:01,778 improve struggling relationships . 451 00:22:01,778 --> 00:22:04,690 These resources include military family 452 00:22:04,690 --> 00:22:07,530 life counselors , chaplains , the 453 00:22:07,530 --> 00:22:10,540 Airmen and Family Readiness Center and 454 00:22:10,550 --> 00:22:13,460 Military One source family members 455 00:22:13,460 --> 00:22:15,430 contribute enormously to many 456 00:22:15,430 --> 00:22:17,770 protective factors . Even if you're 457 00:22:17,780 --> 00:22:19,836 airmen isn't currently in distress , 458 00:22:20,020 --> 00:22:22,076 there's a lot you can do now to help 459 00:22:22,076 --> 00:22:24,409 protect and fortify them for the future . 460 00:22:24,540 --> 00:22:27,100 Whether you are a spouse , child , 461 00:22:27,110 --> 00:22:29,570 parent or sibling of an airman , you're 462 00:22:29,570 --> 00:22:31,730 part of the Air Force family . If 463 00:22:31,730 --> 00:22:33,952 you're struggling or having thoughts of 464 00:22:33,952 --> 00:22:36,063 suicide , please reach out for help . 465 00:22:36,063 --> 00:22:38,330 Military One source provides detailed 466 00:22:38,330 --> 00:22:40,330 information about what services and 467 00:22:40,330 --> 00:22:42,219 programs are available for family 468 00:22:42,219 --> 00:22:44,580 members . The Air Force thanks you for 469 00:22:44,580 --> 00:22:46,524 the love and support you give your 470 00:22:46,524 --> 00:22:49,140 Airmen and for the sacrifices you make 471 00:22:49,150 --> 00:22:51,670 as an Air Force family member . We know 472 00:22:51,670 --> 00:22:53,720 we ask a lot of you , but with your 473 00:22:53,720 --> 00:22:56,410 help we can keep all our airmen ready 474 00:22:56,690 --> 00:22:57,690 and resilient . 475 00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:05,940 Mhm . Mhm . Yeah . Yeah . 476 00:23:09,140 --> 00:23:10,140 Yeah . 477 00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:16,940 Yeah . Mm . Yeah . 478 00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:19,640 Yeah . 479 00:23:23,740 --> 00:23:23,940 Yeah .